I feel that when I see her, takes charge gets things done, however not a pain. She is a gentle person who does not use her tongue like a whip. She also hosts the tea for the women's club in her community, that explains the mass of hydrangeas in the house.
My husband says that I would never have to hit anyone as I can beat them up with my tongue.
I guess that is called a "Tongue Lashing" I don't find this true, but do others see us as we see ourselves? I don't think so, they don't know all the things about the inner person. Cosmetics or not we all have a cosmetic appearance that we use. We are different in our home than at a work place, or a store, and we can be different depending on what we need, as we push the numbers on the phone to finally get to the dept. we want and hear numerous things from all the depts we don't want, we are using our other self in preparation to receive the service we want.
It always works well to say a greeting of pleasantries and use their name if you can understand it. Then say I am hoping you can help me. This has nothing to do with what words are in my head. I think we should take pride in all the people we can be, it means we can cope, we can help, we can excel.
Working on whimsy